Drop the “Okay?!”

“Okay,” let’s talk for a minute about the power of language and tone with young children.  Parents of toddlers know that a well-placed, excited “ooh” or “ahh” can redirect their child’s attention away from the cleaning of a hurt boo boo (although, first you should reflect and acknowledge your child’s emotions and pain).  Those words and the Read More

Children On Leashes

Today I walked down a New York City street and noticed three young children on leashes.  Sure, two were dressed up as cute little monkey backpacks with tails for the parents to hold on to, but still….they’re leashes.  After years working with toddlers, 2s and 3s, I get it.  They can have selective listening, can Read More

Tips To Tame Tantrums!

Recently, in many of my parent groups and private sessions, tantrums seem to be the topic of choice.  Tantruming is not new to childhood but it seems that every day an expert has a new way to end your child’s tantrums. I say stick with the tried and true… Before your child tantrums, think about what sets them Read More

Discipline Is Not A Bad Word!

  Many parents today are concerned about disciplining their children.  Some don’t want to be “mean,” others don’t want to “damage” their children.  Some want to be “friends” with their kids, and others just aren’t sure how to do it.  The key in positive discipline and limit setting is to teach cooperation!  You can start Read More

Immediate, Natural Consequences

Whenever I speak to parents about discipline, amongst other things, we discuss developmentally appropriate expectations, consistency, positive alternatives, and immediate, natural consequences.  Immediate, natural consequences are particularly important to explain because often, they don’t come immediately or naturally, to a grown up.  First things first: what is an immediate, natural consequence?  Using positive discipline begins by teaching Read More

Spoiled, But Not Rotten

Here’s a wonderful tidbit from a recent parent workshop I conducted.  I was talking with a group of working parents about the guilt they were feeling.  The conversation progressed to purchasing items for children and whether or not that assuages some of the guilt.  The truth of the matter is that whether they are working Read More

Can You “Kid” With Kids? How Humor Can Be Helpful

Many of us know adults who use humor to diffuse the tension in situations, but did you know that humor is a wonderful technique with children, from toddlers on up?  When they are about to tantrum or fight, catch them off guard with humor.  You could try saying “Hey wait a second.  Where did my child Read More

Little Lunch Launchers

Lately I’ve been hearing the same thing from parent after parent….”My toddler/2/3 won’t stop throwing his food.  I put him in the high chair to eat and almost immediately the food is flying.  And the best part is, when I say ‘no throw,’ he laughs!”  Here are just a few  ideas that can be helpful:   Read More

Why Isn’t This Working?!

Many parents set up an appointment with me when they are feeling frustrated, exhausted, helpless, or a multitude of other emotions.  Most come in to our sessions with an open mind and an open heart, and are willing to try almost anything to make their situations better.  One of the first things I tell parents is that “change Read More