Be Consistent
One of the basic tenets of the parent education I provide is that consistency is essential to successful parenting. Take, for example, the client whose daughter was potty training. Most days she woke up in the morning and was changed from a diaper into underwear. However, on some days when Mom felt rushed in the morning, or they were going to be out of the house for a long period, she put a diaper on her daughter. How confusing! As potty training reached its 6 month of only part time success, this Mom reached out. The solution? Be consistent!
What Are Your Non-Negotiables?
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same can be said for many areas of parenting. Now, don’t get me wrong, just
being consistent is not going to solve every issue that arises. There have to
be some family rules that are non-negotiable. It’s in those areas where it’s
essential to be consistent. So, what are your non-negotiables? If you
could only pick 3, what would they be? Does your toddler have to sit at the
table when eating? Does your preschooler need to put his toys away at the end
of the day? Is climbing on the furniture a no-no in your house?
Inconsistency Leads to Challenging Behavior
When a parent reacts inconsistently, children often feel insecure and test limits. This can show up as whining, insisting, bargaining or having a temper tantrum. Not fun for anyone! On the other hand, when a parent’s reactions are consistent and predictable, the child knows just what to do. They know what is expected of them. Being able to meet someone’s expectations feels good, no matter your age.
Bottom line: Define your non-negotiables, work as a team with your partner, and be consistent!