Review: Building Self-Control, The American Way

Last Sunday the NY Times published an opinion piece in response to this past years’ focus on international parenting techniques.  The unifying factor of many of these practices is helping children learn self-control and self-discipline.  Throughout my blog posts and workshops you will find  that I repeatedly emphasize the important of positive discipline that leads Read More

Giving Thanks

Today on Thanksgiving, but really every day, it is important to think about raising children who are thankful and appreciative.  How can a parent or teacher instill these traits in children? When children are about 18 months old, they can repeat the phrase “thank you.”  While they will not truly understand what it means until they Read More

9/11 and Children: Seize An Opportunity

Like most people, I have spent today reflecting.  I have been thinking about our world and where I was 10 years ago.  If you haven’t done so already, I would encourage you to take a moment now.  Talking to children about the events of 9/11/01 is a very personal choice.  Certainly, parents should consider their Read More

Showing Emotions to Children

I recently wrote about how aware children are of what their parents are communicating through language and behavior. This is true both after extreme events and during the typical day. When a parent is anxious during separation at school, the child knows. When a grownup holds the child’s hand just a little bit tighter while Read More

Can You “Kid” With Kids? How Humor Can Be Helpful

Many of us know adults who use humor to diffuse the tension in situations, but did you know that humor is a wonderful technique with children, from toddlers on up?  When they are about to tantrum or fight, catch them off guard with humor.  You could try saying “Hey wait a second.  Where did my child Read More

Teaching Children To Problem Solve

Learning to problem solve begins at a very young age, and is a lifelong skill that helps us as we make our way through the world.  Infants learn to problem solve as they track a toy with their eyes and slowly begin to reach out to grasp it.  Babies problem solve when they have a toy Read More

Caught Being Good

I was recently on line at the supermarket behind a woman and her daughter.  The child was probably about 6 years old and she and her mother were discussing what they were going to eat for dessert.  They suddenly realized they had forgotten the ice cream cones.  The mother calmly said to her daughter “You go Read More

A Wonderful Sight!

Another walk down the street, another sighting.  This time a wonderful interaction!  I’ll post more about nannies and nanny relationships later, but the nanny I saw today was clearly a special one. Initially, the child (between 2 and 3) was in the stroller hysterically crying.  I always try my best not to frown along with the child.  Read More

Quality, Not Quantity.

I speak to parents all the time about their children.  Sometimes casually, sometimes formally.  And what I’m about to say is not a new concept.  But many times, while we are chatting informally, we’re both checking blackberries, iphones, emails, texts and really only half listening to each other.  This is not okay.  I wonder about Read More